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Wednesday, January 31, 2018

How to Hear from the Holy Spirit Session Three

How to Hear from the Holy Spirit Session Three

Once we learn to hear and listen to the Holy Spirit our next job is to learn to cultivate the nine fruits He has given to us as believers. This means we need to make a conscious effort to not only cultivate these in our lives but to keep studying them as we mature in the faith.

The nine gifts of the Spirit according to Galatians 5:22-23 are: 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

I have studied these characteristics several times over the years. One thing I learned early on is that these fruits build on one another. The more love you have the more joy you have. The more joy you have the more peace you have and so on. So, the fruit of self-control is built upon the strong cultivation of the others.  The Holy Spirit is the teacher and the counselor there is no human way to truly and deeply cultivate these fruits without His leadership and guidance. This is not something we do it is something we are given when the Holy Spirit resides in us and helps us to learn how to cultivate them and live in them every day.

I believe holiness is the living and walking consistently in these gifts and being able to consistently be able to walk in them.

God told us to be holy as He is holy.

13 Therefore, preparing your minds for action,[a] and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. 14 As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, 15 but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, 16 since it is written, “You shall be holy, for I am holy.” 17 And if you call on him as Father who judges impartially according to each one's deeds, conduct yourselves with fear throughout the time of your exile, 18 knowing that you were ransomed from the futile ways inherited from your forefathers, not with perishable things such as silver or gold, 19 but with the precious blood of Christ, like that of a lamb without blemish or spot.
1 Peter 1:12 ESV
As this verse tells us that being holy is about how we conduct our lives. The fruit of the Spirit are the nine ways we are called to conduct ourselves in our interactions with other human beings.
Over the course of my life I have often struggled with a competitive spirit. This is different from being competitive in a healthy way. Instead this is a fear or a dread of being less than to the point you do things which are contrary to he word. When I was in my twenties there was a young lady who was dating my cousin and another friend of mine at the same time. Now, I was offended mostly because I was jealous to be honest. So, I told both men about the other. Of course, I justified my actions by saying she was sleeping with them both and the new disease AIDS was on the scene. But, really I was jealous. I behaved ominously. There was no reason for me to shout her out to these guys. When I say the Holy Spirit was not pleased with me, I am telling you there is no way to convey to you the seriousness of His displeasure. However, even with this He corrected me within the bounds of the fruits He was attempting to help me build in my life. I was ashamed of my behavior and apologized to all involved at the time.  I also learned how to pray and give and seek forgiveness. It was a tough lesson to learn. But, I did learn it and never bore witness against someone based on my high mindedness again.
Maturity calls for us to grow up and put way childish behavior. Acting with love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, gentleness and self-control requires we develop a mature walk with God.  It is not easy, it not always fun. But, it is worth it and makes it easier to live life.
Question for this Session and Beyond:
This question is to help you move beyond these sessions and to use the information to improve your lives from here on out!
Things to take away from this lesson:
1.      The fruits of the Spirit are as much about behavior as they are about feelings.
2.      These fruits are given to us by the Holy Spirt because He wants to teach us how to cultivate them.
3.      The frits and holiness go together.
4.      The level to which we act and govern our lied by these nine characteristics shows forth our maturity level in spiritual things.
5.      Our lives are best lived by communing with the Holy Spirit and knowing exactly what He is telling us about every aspect of our lives.
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Wednesday, January 24, 2018

How to Hear from the Holy Spirit Session Two

I am assuming if you are reading this you have decided on two things. One the Holy Spirit does speak often and two that He wants to speak to you specifically. Great! Now one thing people often ask me is how do you get the Holy Spirit to talk to you? I often laugh at this question because it implies that you have to coax Him into it. When in fact it is the opposite. He is so eager to talk to you it would make your head spin if you could see how much!

He created you for this very purpose! He wants you to know Him as deeply as He already knows you. The Holy Spirit is about love, servanthood, and righteousness.  The Holy Spirit is the most tender and at the same time the most terrifying of the Godhead. He is kind, loving, and always there to help those who obey the scriptures and do the three things required.

Micah 6:8

What has God required of you oh, man? But, to act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with your God.

To do this is as easy as loving God, yourself, and your neighbor.

Staying focused on these things will put you in a great position to hear from Him. He at the core is a servant He wants to help you hit the target for every area of your life and He cares deeply for the things you care about.

One evening I wanted to go out I was going to dinner with a group of singles from my church. There was one guy I wanted to impress. I was hemming, and hawing and I just could not decide what to wear. I heard the Spirit say, where this skirt with this top and that jacket. I had never thought to put those particular pieces together before and I loved the way I looked. When I got to the restaurant the guy I liked was there. He stood up and held out a chair for me and as I sat down he said you look very nice tonight. In the long run we decided we were better off as friends. But, I will never forget that God cared about how I looked that night because I did. That night He served me by telling me what to wear. Over the years He has counseled me in so many things they are to numerous to count. He wants to do the same for you.

However, He is God. And as loving as He is; He is also demanding and is straight up not happy about our putting anything before Him. He wants our love and focus to be on Him and His purpose for us. He will cause blessings to chase us down and overtake us when we do. However, He created our world where everything has an opposite, so if blessings chase you down if you are willing and obedient. Then curses will chase you down if you are not.  However, He is also gracious and merciful, so it is not always as bad as it could be in our lives. Yet, make no mistake this is the same God who had an archangel thrown out of heaven, caused the Earth to be flooded, confused languages at the Tower of Babel, rained down fire and brimstone on Sodom. He had the people of Israel backing away from Mount Moriah in fear, caused Israel to be overtaken again and again, and knocked Paul of his horse and blinded The Holy Spirit is King and things are His way period. He is kind and gracious enough to teach us His ways through the scriptures and He shows great mercy and kindness in holding off judgement as long as possible. But, make now mistake judgment is doming.

I am telling you this because many people who speak of the Holy Spirit fail to tell you all of who He is. Yet, you need to know exactly who you are dealing with and approach Him with the awe and reverence due Him as the one true God King and Master of the Universe. He expects awe and respect from you. Because you want to hear from Him and know Him we all need to start by focusing on the love God has for us. The gospel of John is the book in the scriptures which gives the clearest picture of the love God has for us. I encourage you to listen to it this week. I encourage listening because something happens to us as we listen to the word and not just read it. I find it interesting that faith comes by hearing the word and not by reading the word.   (Romans 10:17)

Question for Week Two

How do you feel and what do you think about the Holy Spirit being both loving and terrible?


Write and consider how you feel about the Holy Spirit being both loving and terrible. Explore your feelings about this. Talk to Him about it and as you Soak this week take time to let Him minister to you in this aspect of who He is.

Listen to the gospel of John again this week.  . As you listen take time to journal what jumps out at you that is God loving an individual or a group of people.


Look up the words from Micah 6:8 Just, mercy, humility. How so these words apply to you in your life?

Things to Take From this Lesson:

1.      The Holy Spirit is full of lovingkindness.
2.      He is God and as such is is both Great and Terrible
3.      He has some things He expects of us. He is willing to not only help us to meet the expectations He empowers us to meet them.

4.      He wants us to understand His love for us and then to live in it.

Thursday, January 18, 2018

Cooking with Kids!

Cooking with kids is a great way to foster life skills. Whether nannying or parenting helping kids make healthy snacks is a plus for teaching them about healthy eating. There are many children who are gluten intolerant and healthy snacks for them require more diligence. So, I chose this recipe to ensure everyone can use It. If the child in your care is allergic to almonds you can use any nut.

One of the best snacks in my opinion must include two of the four food groups three if possible. This dual recipe gets dinner and snacks made at the same time. While  allowing you to teach kids about the advantages and disadvantages of buying convenience foods. What I mean by convenient food is the buying of shredded carrots to make a carrot salad verses buying whole carrots and shredding them yourself.  There is a cost for convenience.

This recipe is spinach and cheddar quiche. You are going to work on making a large one for dinner while the children make mini ones for healthy snacks. Teaching children lessons about how things are priced and what you are really buying when purchasing food can help them better understand how they are spending money. Before you start cooking go buy your ingredients. I want you to buy frozen and fresh spinach, whole almonds and slivered almonds, whole nutmeg and ground  nutmeg, and eight ounces each of whole and shredded Cheddar cheese. Start this activity by asking children to look at the whole objects verses the those which have been made more convenient then ask which they think was less expensive and why? You can discuss this while you prep your ingredients. This way as you cook you can move from one step to the next without having to stop. You will need more preparation as you (nanny or parent) are using the whole ingredients.

While you begin this cooking activity ask kids, what is a healthy snack? Discuss your thoughts as you cook.

 Here is what you will need.

Crusts (divide in half to use for both recipes.)
Six cups of roasted almonds
½ cup of almond meal/flour
1 teaspoon of salt
1 cup of melted butter

Pre heat the oven to 350 degrees. In a food processor pulse the nuts until you have small pieces. You can have the children do their in batches using a small processor. Put pieces in a bowl and add ½ cup of melted butter, ¼ cup of almond meal and salt. Stir until mixed. Pour into pie tin, kids should use a tablespoon to put into the mini muffin pan. Press nut mixture into the tins forming a crust. Place into oven and  partake for five to six minutes. Remove and let cool.

Filling (divide ingredients in half for both recipes)
8 eggs
2 cups of milk
½  sweet onion
½  teaspoon nutmeg
20  ounces of Spinach
16  ounces cheddar cheese
4 tablespoons of olive oil
Light sprinkle of Red Pepper Flakes (optional)
Salt and pepper to taste

Chop onion using the food processor. Defrost frozen spinach and wring out excess water. (This is fun for children. It allows them to use their muscles as they prepare a healthy snack. 💪🏽)
(Depending on the age of your children nanny's may want to make the filling on the stove and let children hand them the ingredients to put in the skillet.)

Add  two tablespoon of oil to a nonstick skillet heat over medium heat. Once the oil is warm if using red pepper add first. Then add onion and cook until translucent about three minutes. Add spinach stirring to incorporate onions into spinach (add salt and pepper sparingly as you are also going to salt and pepper the eggs). Let mixture  warm through about five minutes. Set aside to cool. While spinach cools break 4 eggs into a bowl,  add one cup of milk and salt and pepper to taste beat until uniform in color. Set aside.

Put your cooled spinach mixture in the bottom of your crusts. Add a layer of cheddar on top. (save some for the top) Then pour your eggs on top. This activity for kids have them, use a ½ teaspoon of spinach in each mini crust. Then use a spouted cup measure to fill the mini crust with the egg mixture fill the mini cups to just below the cups edge. Bake in a 350 degree oven for 30-40 minutes. The minis will bake faster so be. Sure to check at 30 minutes. They are done when the eggs have a lightly golden color.

While they bake go ahead and clean up. Take out your receipt from shopping and show the children what you paid.

There are things to think about before doing this healthy snack activity with kids.  For instance, in most cases it is better to buy the whole like with whole verses shredded carrots. However, spinach is an exception. Pound per pound you save over $2.00 buying frozen over fresh. Also, since most spinach is picked, cooked and frozen the same day it is nutritionally richer. So, if you are cooking with spinach it is actually better to buy the frozen. This is also a good time to talk about comparison shopping. (Next time you are running errands with the children pick an item and note what the same item cost in differing places.) We often decide where we are going based on cost and convenience. Think about some examples which fit your lifestyle and local area. This conversation should be a give and take make sure you are asking open-ended questions (questions which have more than one answer or that give children room to think outside of the box-example from earlier. What is a healthy snack?). Then  listen carefully to the answers children can surprise you. I have learned many a thing from the pre-school generation and I expect to continue doing so. Teaching kids life skills while cooking is a great habit to form. Often, children feel more comfortable talking while  cooking. It tends  to be easier  to open up. Parents and Nannies who practice teaching life skills while cooking  with kids often find it is during these times are where children open up  and talk. There are any benefits to teaching children about healthy snacking, it is only limited by the nanny or parent planning the activity with kids. Another article which can offer you some help.   https://learn.sittercycle.com/courses/interacting-with-children-for-everyday-learning

Wednesday, January 17, 2018

How to Hear from the Holy Spirit Session One

How to Hear from the Holy Spirit

Session One Notes , Journal, and Exercise

There are many believers who think if they read the Bible they are connecting with God however there is a difference between connecting with the scriptures which is the Word of God and connecting with Jesus who is the God of the Word. The scriptures are given to us to help us understand who He is and what He expects of us. But, knowing and connecting with Him goes beyond the scriptures and into the mystery of a deep communication of the one who created you to not only know and obey what the scriptures teach us; but to know His voice and obey what He wants to tell us beyond what the scriptures tell us.

When I was 22 years old I sat down alone on my college campus between classes and I asked my self this deep and serious question.

“Am I going to follow this God my parents have taught me about? Do I desire to know who He really is and what He has for me to do here? Or am I going to go my own way and just live the life I want?”

I made the deliberate and conscious decision to know and follow God. Thus, January 1, 1988, I went on my first fast. I lasted until dinner. The fried chicken, black eyed peas, and greens were shouting my name! LOL. But, during that afternoon I said something I will never forget. I held up the Bible and I said, I love this book, but this book is not you it only points to you. If I am going to take this journey it has to be me and you together. I am not willing to go on this journey alone.

I know for sure it is this which has made the difference in my walk. I know the Holy Spirit intimately. I do not just know about Him because I read about Him in the scriptures. I know Him as a person. Someone who laughs, teases, instructs, is kind, and firm. There are many who say He is a gentleman and He is but, He is also the person who knocked Paul off his horse. Which is not exactly a gentlemanly thing to do.
He hovers over the Earth and in the hearts of men, and He is the one who will bring the wrath of God down on the disobedient in the last of all days.

The Holy Spirit is part of the great and awesome Godhead. He is loving, kind, fierce, and terrible. Yet, in all things He is my best friend and tells me all I need to know and gives to me everything pertaining to life and godliness; all I need to do is ask.

He wants you to know Him in the same way. In fact, He longs for you to know Him in the same way. I never have to wonder what He is thinking He tells me. I do not mean He gives me a sense of calm and peace. I do not mean He speaks in in still small voice; which I sense deep inside. And I do not mean in a dream or vision although He does still use those from time to time. I mean He uses English and flat out tells me what He thinks. It is not always easy to hear, it is not always fun. But, it is always straight up and straight out in English and clear as a bell.

This is only true because I speak English, if your native tongue is something other than that He will speak to you in your language. Remember the Tower of Babel it was He who confused the languages and separated people out into people groups based on the fact they could understand one another. So, you can be sure that He knows what to say and how to speak directly to you in a clear way.

Each day is a new learning experience. Sometimes, I need t step back and think about how He deals wiith me before I can understand what He is saying. The other day I lost my credit card I knew it was in the house somewhere but, I could not remember where. He told me look on the table. I looked on the table and it was not there. Then I thought wait, many times when He says on He wants me to look under, I moved the chair and found it. I think He does this to show me that I am hearing from Him but, to think about the fact that I am hearing from Him. He does not want me to ever take Him for granted, ever keeping in mind who I am talking to and that He is God and I am human. He loves me but, He is Holy and wants me to ever be reverent and humble as I walk with Him.


Each of these lessons I am going to ask you a question I want you to think about and journal on each day. The purpose of this journal assignment is to get you thinking about this session each day and writing out what you think so you can see it on paper.

As you think about this question I want you to practice a form of prayer called Soaking. Soaking is where you put on instrumental worship music and sit quietly and focus on the Holy Spirit and what He may want to say to you. Here is a Ir’s Supernatural show by Sid Roth regarding this form of prayer. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6kMX-5nWLfs

Question for Week One:

Do you believe God is always talking, and that He wants to talk to you?

Everyday for the next six days I want you to write in a journal for at least 15 minutes. Explore your thoughts about this question. Write other questions and then write your answers as you go throughout the week. The session before our next class. Write a post about what you have thought about the last few days.  So we can have a discussion about it. Extra Credit: Begin to ask the Holy Spirit  questions you would like answers to, writeh them in yor journal. When you sit down to write look at each of these questions. Have they been answered?


Read John 16:7 in the following translations and write it down three times in each one.

English Standard Version
New American Standard
The Message
New International Version
The Amplified
The Tree of Life

 Look up the words Teacher and Advocate and write down the definitions

Ask the Holy Spirit to show you how this scripture applies specifically to you and in your life.
Share an independent post on what you hear.

Things to take from this lesson:

1.The Holy Spirit is a person. He is not an it. He is our teacher,counselor and friend whose job it is to teach us to know God and to live according to the standards of our home the Kingdome of God.
2.He wants us to not only know His voice, but to obey what He says to us.
3.He loves us so much and longs to connect with us regularly.

Sunday, January 7, 2018

C an you Hear the Voice?

The first time I heard the voice of the Holy Spirit I was sure it was just me thinking what He said. Because it was not just an impression, a feeling or a hunch. It was a spoken word the word was NO! I will never forget it. I was in the kitchen, I knew at that time it was going to be a while before He sent my husband. I know He told me to wait. I asked Him to provide me a male friend someone I could do things with, hang out with and who would occasionally kiss me. I got a loud, distinct, and forceful NO! At the rime I was so surprised. ut, I said 'okay but why" The full answer came slowly, but in that instant He said  a kiss is the first place a man take possession of a woman's mind, heart, and body. 
This is why the wedding ceremony ends in a kiss.

I few weeks later I got Dr. Chapman's book for the first time and realized that touch is my love language. The rest of the story as Paul Harvey would say. I again heard the Holy Spirit saying you would always be heartbroken.  Then I fully understood. I know there are those people who will tell you God does not talk that much. But, the truth is if you are listening the Holy Spirit is always talking. He cares about everything which concerns us. What we eat. Where we sleep. Who our friends are. What we do for a living. If you listen for His voice He will tell you clearly what to do.

The problem is people do not listen and therefore think He isn't talking. Big mistakes! I was recently speaking with a client who asked me "How do you hear from the Holy Spritt?" I told her I would have to think about it. Once I did I heard the Holy Spirit say; "this is why so many children fall away from the faith in college. They do not know my voice for themselves and therefore do not really know me. I want a generation of children who not only know about me but also know me. Teach parents to hear me sot they can teach the kids, my kids to hear me too."

If you have been following this blog for any time you know I uses Psalms 78:6 as my foundation scripture.

so the next generation would know them,
    even the children yet to be born,

    and they in turn would tell their children NIV

This scripture speaks of the responsibility one generation has to the next to teach them about God who He is and what He expects. A large part of that is teaching our kids to hear His voice and to obey what they hear.

If you are interested in finding out more. I am inviting you to join us on Tuesday evenings at I pm starting the 15th of January. The first three weeks is a free class on how adults can focus in and hear better from the Holy Spirit. The next class starts February 26th and will be an eight week paid class on teach your kids to hear as well. You are invited to come on the journey!

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