As a parent educator I speak with many parents about this issue here are some of my tboughts.
- You need time to yourself. We all need time to ourselves to regroup and relax our bodies and minds. If you have to put this time on your calendar. Make this a priority, your life has no balance unless you give to yourself first. This is not selfish you are setting an example for your children in balancing life and work.
- You need time alone with your spouse. Many parents especially Mom's make the of failing to keep the relationship between Mom and Dad on the prior list. Let's be honest without the marriage the family is broken. Our marriage is the foundation of the family protect and build on? it.
- Each child needs some of your undivided time each day. I believe each child needs at least 15-45 minutes a day of undivided attention from each adult who lives in the house. This is an important part of relationship building. Children need time to talk, listen, and ask questions, without being interrupted. Adults should be solely focused on the child during these times.
- Find work you are passionate about. One of the most important aspects of finding work/life balance is enjoying your job. Going to a job you dislike is draining and can get deprssing. This makes achieving balance much harder. When you love what you do, the joy of doing it makes you a happier person. The more content you are the easier it is to maintain balance.
- If you must take work home make a plan to work smarter not harder. Working from home after work can be a non-negotiable in some fields. The key to balance here is building it into your routine. For instance, if you need to bring work home. Maybe your routine is Saturday mornings while the kids watch cartoons you work until noon. Then if you need more time Sunday between 1:30 and 4:30 pm. While the family naps, watches a movie, etc you work. Allowing for Sunday mornings and evenings to be reserved for family time.
- Work on focusing on the now. Be present in the moment you are in fully. Most of us have a hard time living in the moment. Yet, this is ultimately the crux of work /life balance. Being where you are and being fully committed to what you are doing in that moment is what this balancing act is all about.
If you think the above six items are much easier said than done, then perhaps you can understand why we have been stringing with this for 150 years. Humans often struggle with the issue. Try putting the above habits in place and perhaps consider making these 6 practices your New Year's Resolution for 2016. Remember as a parent it is not just about doing this to have more time with your children. It is about being a living example for them to follow.
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Just after I wrote this piece. I discovered ivankatrump.com and #womenwhowork. This site has excellent resources to help women with work/life balance!
Just after I wrote this piece. I discovered ivankatrump.com and #womenwhowork. This site has excellent resources to help women with work/life balance!
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